I am a young man of 35 years and was in love with a nice young lady who I intended to get married to but unfortunately we lost contact with each other.
As the only son, my parents wanted me to get married on time and started pressuring me so a year after I lost contact with her, I met another young lady. We love each other and agreed to get married. She mistakenly got pregnant for me and because I was not financially okay that period I asked her to terminate the pregnancy.
She refused and I threatened to quit the relationship before she finally agreed to get rid of it. Fortunately for me my fortunes became better as God blessed me financially. We then decided to do our traditional wedding. But now after four years of marriage we are yet to have any children because my wife could not get pregnant.
About this time I received a call from my ex girlfriend who I said I had lost contact with years ago and who was now very aware that I was married, although I am not living with my wife since I work out of town.
This ex of mine visited me one day at my station and spent two weeks with me and due to the love we had, one thing led to another, we made love and she eventually became pregnant for me. I was afraid to demand for an abortion and she went ahead to give birth to a child. Coincidentally my wife also became pregnant but unfortunately it was ectopic and she lost the child and her womb.
So now I had a child from my ex and the parents of this lady insist that I must marry their daughter properly before I can have any rights to the child. Now my wife takes better care of the child than even the mother who has became very loose and has even slept around with some of my friends .
My problem now is that I still need more children and my wife can no longer bear children and I don’t want to go for adoption. Of late my mind keeps going back to my ex as the only other option if I am ever going to see more of my own children and I don’t know what to do about it.
I know I deserve a lot of criticisms as to my actions but I do need your advice urgently.