My Family Does not Approve of My Fiance Because He is Poor
|I met my boyfriend four months ago and I am in love with him and he means the world to me. He is 30 years of age and I am 24. We are both degree holders and are both planning to further our academic pursuits. We love each other so much.
He is so matured caring and understanding. He treats me like a queen. We started out as ordinary friends and gradually became very close. That is one reason why I accepted his proposal for marriage.
The problem we are both having now is that my father does not approve of him because he is not fanancially balanced. My boyfriend is not working for now and assists his mother with her petty business which is not very profitable.
I adviced him on searching for a job with his current qualification which presently he is doing and I am supporting him. I work in a company as an Industrial Trainee Student.
My family despises him and I am reluctant to even explain his miserable plight to them because I am afraid it will make them hate him the more, since they expect me to get married to a well to do man. In fact my father and brothers have threatened to deal with me if I am seen with him. I am very sad by all this and dont know how to get my family to approve of him. Please advice me if our union has a chance or not.
My sis please follow your @ marriage is everlasting
Your family are worried about you because they love you and wants the best for you.But from the things you said it is only normal they react that way,they have nurtured, cared for you since you were a child so they would want to see you settle down well.Of course the decisions whether you should follow your heart or not is also there.There is a lot of things to consider before you make a decision.Do you truly love this guy and won’t end up loathing him for his position if you decided to follow your heart and marry this guy know that there are challenges you would face in such marriage. It is never advisabl to marry a jobless man,I can say this from things I witnessed from my parents marriage my father had know jobs even though he was always searching this of course was not his fault it became his fault when he decided to take advantage of my mother.He started to relax he never contributed a dime in raising any of his five children.whenever he found a job he left a week or so after employment with unfounded reasons such as my boss was rude I won’t work for that man, he is overbearing,He always left without thought for his wife and children.Then he would promise us that he would would start his own business soon.Eventually he walked out on us.wat am I trying to say exactly is not DAT Your boyfriend would act like this,of course people are different but when you give too much space to anybody they can take thorough advantages of you.In most situations when a woman marries a man who is in serious financial problem like this,she may end up being the bread winner,she takes care of the house and go to work she may come to disrespect this guy.It is very important to observe if this guy his not with you because he needs someone to take of him financially.You wont believe it,but there are guys like that everywhere.He won’t ask you money balantly.He would always have a story to tell.I am not saying your boyfriend is like this, of course there are lots of goods guys out there who are in such unfortunate positions.But what I know is that a good man would try his best to work to at least help him manage his financial situation.There are guys who are looking out to women to get out of the horrible state they find themselves,by pretending to be in love with you. There are some guys who don’t even want to work at all the moment they find a financially stable woman they would try to get her to marry them so quickly.I am not trying to discourage you or anything like that,I want you to see it from every perspective, you are the one who is dating this guy so you know him much better.perhaps there is something your family members are seeing that you are not.of course life is not math,a man can have a job and then lost d job after marriage,but at least you”ll be able to know he is an hardworking man.It is so not right to marry a jobless person not because he won’t be able to provide for his family,but such men maybe come unwilling to work because someone is supporting them,when they do eventually become financially stable they may find it difficult to support you because it to s now a way of life for them,and of course most of this men had their egos damaged when they had no job so to prove to themselves and you that they are respectable such men are prone to cheat though some of this men would appreciate what their wife had done for them while there are those who don’t but would come out having bruised egos from having their wife has the bread winner.Even men like that can still cheat when they have no money to prove something to their egos. But one thing is clear a poor man would sometime if not most of the would be angry and snap at you occasionally.This is why even though we love we have to think critically about the things we are getting ourselves into.A rich and stable guy could be just has horrible this is why we have to pray about this things.
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