She’s Now Married With Two Kids But It Seems that We Still Love Each Other

I have known this girl since we were in secondary school. We attended the same church and extra mural classes together then. I had very strong feelings for this girl and seriously admired her. She was very beautiful and innocent too but I did not have the courage to ask her out.

As time went by I got to be close to her through her brothers who were my friends and not long after I became quite familiar to her folks (she had beautiful older sisters too!). We left secondary school and gained admission into the same university, and we never lost contact because we still met in church.

Suddenly her family moved and she lost one of her brothers and during that period I was there for her and she really depended on me and that is how I suspected she also had strong feelings for me.

Ten years ago I dropped out of school to travel overseas, only for me to return two months later because I was repatriated. During those two months we lost contact and when I got back I found out that she was married. I was devastated because I had already decided that I was finally going to open my mind to her. Since that time we lost contact again and for the past ten years I’ve not heard from her.

My problem now is that lately we met on facebook and we got chatting. She was really very open and addressed me as her “boyfriend that never was”! Jokingly we chatted about our old times and she told me how she had been waiting for me to ask her out all those years because she too was in love with me, but I never did.

I was surprised, and what astonished me the most was that when I asked her if she would still be willing to date me now she replied that I have not asked her yet?

Please I need advise, what should I do now. I realise I still have strong feelings for her after all these years, but she is married and I don’t understand what she meant by her answer. We have been chatting almost everyday lately I must add.

I am thirty-six now and still single although I am in a relationship. This childhood friend of mine is thirty-one and has two kids for her hubby. Help me, I am confused.

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I believe this lady is not meant for u.pls leave her to face her family while u move on with ur own life too.u r not destined to b together.pls don’t b an intruder.

Kingsford
Kingsford

I think you are not a good person cus according to ur statement the lady have two kids and she’s a marriage woman so why are you still interested in her? My advice to you is that if you want a long life be careful over married women cus is a great sin. Leave her life for her and care for your relationship thx

onyi
onyi

Please leave her alone, do u want to destroy her marriage? U never had the courage to ask her out wen u had the chance. Just focus on ur own relationship and try to make it work not going after a married woman u and I know very well it won’t work.

Anonymous
Anonymous

You better be very careful like the two persons who has told you every thing I suppose mentioned here. Focus on your own relationship and make it work than destroying your own life in another man’s wife. Daniel

Dedicated server
Dedicated server

I’m married with three children” is “Estoy casado con 3 ninos”, nothing wrong, but “I’m married to three children” is the nasty meaning you were seeing.

Anonymous
Anonymous

Please allow her to face her family, why you work on your own relationship and make it work. Do not be a source of distraction to her. Remember she has gotten two children already. What else do you want from a married woman.

Bello Blessings
Bello Blessings

What help do you need. She is married, and you are in a relationship too. Focus on what is at hand. Be a God fearing my brother

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